Men are 3 times more likely than women to commit suicide and 4 times more likely to be diagnosed with alcohol abuse. However, we are half as likely as women to go see a counselor. Talking about our feelings is not generally a man’s territory because of a lot of the cultural messages we receive about masculinity can get in the way.
I have struggled with those same messages and sought out some of the same well worn but ineffective solutions as most men. Growing up I learned to hunt, fish, fight, chew tobacco, and drink a beer. I joined the Marines, went to war, and checked off all the “masculine” boxes I could. None of these proved a long term solution for dealing with thoughts of insecurity or incompetence.
Through the years I have discovered the messages I learned about masculinity were incomplete. My own journey has included working with a therapist on more than one occasion and also discovering that some of the best organizational leaders in our culture value feelings and relationships as among the most effective tools in their arsenal. Current issues of the Harvard Business Review and Time Magazine affirm this.
Maybe you are going through a crisis or experiencing a chronic downturn of some nature. If so, give me a call. My training and experience with counseling men is two decades plus. I understand firsthand what does and doesn’t work for men.